tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post1934086235500692819..comments2023-08-28T21:25:07.994+10:00Comments on Ambassadors & Bridge Builders International: Situational HeterosexualityAnthony Venn-Brownhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05860782135760598118noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-59463137235065504432014-08-30T03:52:50.581+10:002014-08-30T03:52:50.581+10:00interesting when someone has a strong opinion that...interesting when someone has a strong opinion that isnt yours, that they are ignorentAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-84471072547476680272014-06-12T23:22:56.969+10:002014-06-12T23:22:56.969+10:00Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are ...Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are a good man.Anthony Venn-Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17258483658232743453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-44741234266167698282014-06-10T22:26:01.084+10:002014-06-10T22:26:01.084+10:00Still married after 43 years, am a father and a gr...Still married after 43 years, am a father and a grandfather. My wife is severely disabled with MS and I am her carer. The fact that I am gay has been medically proven in my case. I warmly agree with what you have said AVB. After years of self loathing and hatred, it has significantly affected both my children, and I deeply regret they had to endure all that. Living an authentic life where you no longer pretend to be someone you are not is SO important. If ever I have a male partner at some stage in the future, he is likely to be one very dearly loved man.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-72341770666757040972014-04-23T02:20:46.141+10:002014-04-23T02:20:46.141+10:00thanks.....you got itthanks.....you got itAnthony Venn-Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17258483658232743453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-15701626385719446992014-04-22T23:40:27.464+10:002014-04-22T23:40:27.464+10:00You should have read the article. Bisexuality does...You should have read the article. Bisexuality does exist.<br /><br />A bisexual is a person for which the following is true for both sexes:<br /><br />1. The gender we are attracted to sexually<br />2. The gender we fantasize about<br />3. The gender we desire intimacy and affection with<br />4. The gender we are likely to fall in love with <br />5. The gender we want to partner with <br />6. How we identify ourselves <br />7. With all social, religious and legal restrictions removed and the opportunity to have sexual experience with either gender, which one would we honestly chose. Or as one person put it to me recently ‘In the morning, whose arms would you like to wake up in.’<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-64952338455108201322014-04-22T23:33:35.222+10:002014-04-22T23:33:35.222+10:00The majority of homosexuals can reproduce once the...The majority of homosexuals can reproduce once they enter into situational heterosexuality. In my estimate only about 10 percent of male homosexuals find sexual relations with women so repulsive that they can't engage in it. Think of a homosexual having intercourse with a woman to be akin to him jerking off. Keep in mind that not every heterosexual male can engage in situational homosexuality. In my estimate obtained from reading on male sexual behavior in prison settings it appears that over 80% of heterosexual males are capable of situational homosexuality. <br /><br />Situational heterosexual behavior is an area of study deserving close investigation. Prison bars need not just be physical things, they can also be internalized social norms, self loathing, and homophobia. This is the important thing to understand before entering into a proper understanding of homosexuality in our society. Men labeling themselves as gay are homosexuals, but most homosexuals have not embraced the gay identity and should thus not be called gay. Gay is an affirmation and celebration of homosexuality, something that the majority of homosexuals have yet to embrace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-37028179277651016342014-04-22T23:12:40.064+10:002014-04-22T23:12:40.064+10:00Well, an ex-straight is heterosexual serving life ...Well, an ex-straight is heterosexual serving life in prison and engaged in situational homosexuality. In my estimate close to 80% of free homosexual males practice situational heterosexuality, after having being imprisoned by social norms. The damage these homosexuals cause to society, women and themselves can't be imagined.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-21764925251820208962013-04-10T06:39:24.526+10:002013-04-10T06:39:24.526+10:00Do we need an instinct to reproduce? Given that h...Do we need an instinct to reproduce? Given that humans at some point acquired the knowledge of what makes reproduction possible, namely heterosexual intercourse, did we need a sexual instinct to continuet to exist that would compel us to reproduice? I mean, we continued to reproduce after losing the sexual instinct, because we realized that in the harsh world of prehistory, producing children was the best way of ensuring ourselves care and protection in old age and infirmity. The proof in fact, that this instinct has died out in human beings is that, unlike all other sexually reproducing creatures, we can choose whether or not to reproduce. Losing the sexual instinct allowed us to maximize the intelligence potential of our evolving brain, and also allowwed us to live in pair bonds in close proximity to other pair bonds - without the inevitable conflict that would occur if we continued to possess a sexual insitnct (and the accompanying ability to sense sexual pheromones emitted by others of the opposite sex). cghttp://www.humansexualevolution.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-48566067625881886382013-02-13T13:46:45.771+11:002013-02-13T13:46:45.771+11:00Great article A Valentine For My Gay Ex-Husband
ht...Great article A Valentine For My Gay Ex-Husband<br />http://www.huffingtonpost.com/judith-newton/gay-husband-valentine_b_2641159.html?utm_hp_ref=twAnthony Venn-Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17258483658232743453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-91691170049834508592012-07-21T06:15:08.874+10:002012-07-21T06:15:08.874+10:00Christopher,
Your first point "Humans do not ...Christopher,<br />Your first point "Humans do not possess a sexual instinct to engage in heterosexual intercourse" may be a bit flawed considering that the instinct of every organism is to reproduce and the only way humans can reproduce "naturally" is by heterosexual intercourse, so saying that humans do not possess the instinct to mate heterosexual is almost as saying that gays can change their sexual orientation, it is denying nature.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-60391603018505743102012-05-05T20:33:02.171+10:002012-05-05T20:33:02.171+10:00of course bi-sexuality exists Unknown. This articl...of course bi-sexuality exists Unknown. This article is not denying that. research has shown that genuine bisexuality is more prevalent amongst women than men in that a woman will fall in love with another woman. Where as same sex experiences are often more prevalent amongst men without the emotion.Anthony Venn-Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17258483658232743453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-87362037903787874972012-05-05T07:10:25.173+10:002012-05-05T07:10:25.173+10:00this is clearly an ignorant post as it ignores the...this is clearly an ignorant post as it ignores the natural state of bisexuality.<br />is actually bi-phobic in nature. Please go and read some more books. bisexuality exist.ugamauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14032874532015678144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-78763417996308134662011-10-18T10:05:06.349+11:002011-10-18T10:05:06.349+11:0040 years of marriage to my wife hasn't changed...40 years of marriage to my wife hasn't changed anything. I am still gay and now proud to be so. One of the hardest things I have done is to say goodbye to the gay man I could have been. It hasn't been fair on my wife either, but I will never leave her. Our situation is different. I am her carer.<br /><br />It would be libellous for anyone to suggest I have been "cured" and changed from gay to straight.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-90167276838846810152011-01-09T10:37:19.751+11:002011-01-09T10:37:19.751+11:00thanks Michelle.......yes I am very grateful for e...thanks Michelle.......yes I am very grateful for every one of those yearsAnthony Venn-Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05860782135760598118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-66036344814281956172011-01-08T16:15:39.869+11:002011-01-08T16:15:39.869+11:00Thanks for writing the article Anthony. I've p...Thanks for writing the article Anthony. I've posted it to a number of people. <br /><br />I don't like to think "at least you had 16 years...." I would prefer 'in addition, you had 16 years"<br /><br />It's good to see you following the path - and speaking out.<br /><br />MichelleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-42812325273368464212010-10-01T13:12:08.551+10:002010-10-01T13:12:08.551+10:00Anonymous,
True. That is what the Bible says on f...Anonymous,<br /><br />True. That is what the Bible says on face value.<br /><br />Please also refer to Deuteronomy 21:18-21.<br /><br />Ill see you on the 6 o'clock news.Shannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-32072975774136724892010-05-12T19:49:01.580+10:002010-05-12T19:49:01.580+10:00the level of the comment demonstrates I think that...the level of the comment demonstrates I think that we dont need to give any energy to a person like that or give then any credibility by allowing them to affect us emotionally. That way they have no power.Anthony Venn-Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05860782135760598118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-87046200399293479592010-05-12T19:44:39.113+10:002010-05-12T19:44:39.113+10:00These comments get my back up cos they are based i...These comments get my back up cos they are based in ignorance and all I want to do is to educate :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-48353243965296993332010-05-06T23:00:11.895+10:002010-05-06T23:00:11.895+10:00and when someone says something like "end of ...and when someone says something like "end of discussion" i don't give them any more energy. There are some people its best to leave in their ignorance.....especially when they hide behind anonymous. If you had something intelligent to say and you actually believed in you'd actually have the integrity to put your name to it.Anthony Venn-Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05860782135760598118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-5810928890157958982010-05-06T21:22:32.984+10:002010-05-06T21:22:32.984+10:00So Anon does "end of discussion" mean yo...So Anon does "end of discussion" mean you are not open to dialogue on opinions of the truth? I am hoping you realize that we here are totally supporting what the Bible says? Have you looked into the original interpretations for yourself, or are you accepting recent interpretations as the truth? I would be really interested to know how you came to the conclusion you have come to with your post :-)Blessings.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-71566272009295469882010-04-28T18:58:04.849+10:002010-04-28T18:58:04.849+10:00well, i must say what the bible ay... a man a woma...well, i must say what the bible ay... a man a woman the end of discussionAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-87713779531794814622010-04-21T13:58:59.221+10:002010-04-21T13:58:59.221+10:00yes I agree with you Charlie.....no life is withou...yes I agree with you Charlie.....no life is without its tragedies and challenges. It is up to the individuals how they respond to them. this has been the same for my wife and children. to cause them this pain and suffering was not intentional as you know.....it was a matter of following the truth and doing what was right. I came to a point in my life where I became completely conscious that I had been in denial and was living a lie.Anthony Venn-Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05860782135760598118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-22379376552943870162010-04-21T13:51:22.054+10:002010-04-21T13:51:22.054+10:00Oh, I didn't really mean that your wonderful y...Oh, I didn't really mean that your wonderful years of marriage and understanding kids are some form of consolation. To imply this may be dimissive of the pain caused, I totally agree on this. I just feel that nothing is absolute and like you have pointed out, how life turns out largely depends on attitudes. Some are able to oversome pain, some are not. <br /><br />For someone who opt to take on a similar jounrney, they have to be mentally prepared to face the music that comes with it, whether it is the right decision, its hard to say. But your sharing of your experiences definitely will make someone think twice and if anyone were to decide to take on a similar path, hopefully one would be more mindful of what to expect and wouldn't be caught off guard and lose the balance. Even if one were to lose the balance, as everyone does from time to time, it can make a difference when there is empathy.<br /><br />About hurting others, there is no guarantee the other paths taken will cause less casualties. It is still up to the individuals ultimately.<br /><br />Anyway, I am not married, nor have the unique experience to procreate life. I am not envious of those who do, but at the same time I can see the bright side of it through the eyes of some people I know. Anything that makes people happy works, the hard part is to make everyone happy!<br /><br />CharlieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-38623896839177100632010-04-21T12:19:29.239+10:002010-04-21T12:19:29.239+10:00Hi Charlie..nice of you to comment. I totally get ...Hi Charlie..nice of you to comment. I totally get where you are coming from....and for many years would have used similar wording. people often have said 'well at least you had 16 wonderful years of marriage and have two beautiful daughters'....and that is true and I agreed. I did feel though it was often dismissive of the pain my and others ignorance caused on our lives. I think it is important to emphasise that.<br /><br />would I advise anyone to take a similar journey. that would be an emphatic NO! In the long run you will hurt to many people.<br /><br />We have however turned the pain and suffering into something positive. From my experience not everyone can do that.<br /><br />As I often say. In life you either become bitter or better. You responses to life's experiences determines whether we become the former of the later.Anthony Venn-Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05860782135760598118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19856871.post-73843506470226549182010-04-21T01:28:42.227+10:002010-04-21T01:28:42.227+10:00Hi Anthony,
I love what you have written and obvi...Hi Anthony,<br /><br />I love what you have written and obviously they come from experiences of yourself and others. However, when I read your last sentence in bold, I can't help but decide to post my comment here (which I never did anywhere). Your last statement arouses a differing view from me, simply because every decision we made in life forms part of who we are. Without having been through what you had (even though it may be painful for yourself and others), you may not have become the inspirational person today, neither would you have your understanding children and grandchildren. The pain your loved ones had been through even though unpleasant, had probably also make them more open minded than others as they had accepted you, and being open minded definitely will make life easier.<br /><br />Anyway, hands of time cannot be turned back. we will never know who else will be affected in a better or worse way if we had not chosen the paths we had already walked on. <br /><br />Charlie, SingaporeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com